is it important to be happy as parents first before thinking about conceiving a child ?
for me i think that life has no rules and we should stop treating life as if it was a movie which has its rules , plots and twists because it wasn’t written by a normal writer .
life is an always surprising story written by the hands of destiny , and the only rule of destiny is that there are no rules
but at the deepest level there is a rule which we may not be mentally able to comprehend and understand .
so we can not be sure about how things are going to be according to any kind of information we had.
think about it , as a human you would think that when an unhappy parents get a child , the child should be brought up in an unhappy environment which leads him to act in a way which is unhappy. but if you were a god, you could actually make this child an ambassador of peace and happiness .
there is a true story , about two brothers brought by a greedy , monster. or you may just call him “Father” . he was a drug dealer , a heartless one . the father was shot and died . and one of his sons decided to continue his father’s work while the other decided to be a cop ! when both sons were asked “why did you do that?” , “why did you become a drug dealer and killed so many people?” , “Why did you become a cop” ? they gave the very same answer “what would you expect from a child brought up by a drug dealer?” ..
what i am saying is that you can not assume anything . life is not the same for everyone of us. decisions make all the difference .
so please stop framing your life or the lives of others according to rules and laws. stop using your human brain to interfere god’s wisdom . because you wont be able to understand , and you’ll think of life as a chaotic place while actually this chaos is a system we , using our human minds , wont be able to understand .
may your day be better than mine